Tuesday, February 21, 2006

The Perils of Ice-Fishing

I live next to a small, shallow river that is managed by the city; next to my side yard there is a spillway with flood gates that can be raised or lowered to keep the river from flooding the properties that border it. Though there is only a small chance of flooding from this little waterway, every winter the water is drained and the basin is allowed to refill by snowmelt or springtime rains. We’ve complained however, that the yearly draining causes loss of wildlife, notably the large carp that like the shallow weedy stream, and as a result, the city has stopped completely draining the river for us. Also, this year, there hasn’t been very much precipitation—but it has been very cold, especially this past week.

Since the temperature dropped so low so fast, the water left in the river froze completely across the surface—something it rarely does—leaving a smooth coating of ice, completely clear and glassy. Then the sun came out and lit it all up at an angle, like a magnifying lens; even if you stood on the banks you could see all the way to the bottom of the riverbed right through the ice, as if there had been a giant piece of polarized glass placed flat on the water’s surface. It was amazing. The sunshine melted just enough of the ice surface to make it really slippery; if it had been thick enough to skate on, I don’t think I’d have been able to look anywhere but down. It was a rare occurrence to see ice form that quickly on the river; usually it stays warmer all winter and we only get ice formation along the banks. This was different, though—tempting to walk out on, or try to navigate across. It must have looked fairly tempting to the great blue heron that was trying to fish on it, too.This poor bird picked his ungainly way out to the middle of the river, skidding like Bambi all over the slick, wet surface. He kept his long wings slightly unfurled, for balance, baring the bluer feathers along their outer edges. I watched him stalked along the ice, picking up one articulated stilt of a leg up after the other slowly and gingerly, as if he walked through something thick and gooey; every so often his foot would skid from under him and he would lurch forward or backward and thrust a wing out at a weird angle in order to remain upright. It was a comical thing to see, though I was more entranced than amused at first—I’ve seen plenty of herons, but they’re usually so skittish they don’t stick around to allow themselves to be watched while they fish.

This poor heron, however, was probably too frustrated to care. Especially just after I walked to the edge of the river. As I emerged from behind the trees, the heron became alerted to my presence, and stretched his neck up and his wings out in order to fly off—but when he did, he lost his balance and his gangly legs did a cartoon-like dance under him and he nearly fell on his blue-feathered butt. There should have been music for that—or at least sound effects. His legs pedaled so fast they looked like the Road Runner escaping Wile E. Coyote. After ruffling all his feathers in indignation, he finally settled back down and began to fish.

This was even worse. He could see all the way to the bottom of the river too. But he couldn’t get to the bottom, not even when he could clearly see swimming food. His long beak could be heard clacking against the ice when he stabbed forth with it in order to pick up whatever it was he wanted—and he got knocked senseless each time. The poor bird didn’t give up, though—he methodically stepped those long lanky legs over several dozen square feet of ice, stabbing here or there when he saw something swimming—keeping his neck and beak stretched out in front of him for the instant when food came into view—and each time coming up empty-beaked.

It was getting funnier by the minute. Each time he would stab out for a fish, he would slip on the ice and flail about, and each time he would hit the ice with that long hard beak. Though I laughed, I felt very sorry for him. He was trying so hard, and it wasn’t clear to him why he couldn’t get the food tht was moving around right under his feet. I wonder if he understood that the water he was looking into was hard enough to stand on and that it wasn’t normal to stand on top of the water—or if that conclusion didn’t bother him. He tried for the better part of an hour and a half to find some hole somewhere where he could spear a fish. Every once in a while, he would find a small pothole in the ice and sink up to a knee—but it was never big enough to find a fish in as well.

The cold was intense and I couldn’t stand outside any longer. And the sun was setting. I reluctantly turned away from this scene, glad I had been there to see it, even though I knew the heron probably didn’t get any dinner that day. I wish I’d had some fish to throw out there for him. I even considered shattering the ice with a large rock, just so he could get underneath the frustrating barrier. But Nature doesn’t really need my interference. If I had thrown the rock, it would have scared the bird, and probably just stirred up a bunch of mud on the bottom of the stream; so I let it go, knowing full well that herons are pretty resilient birds; what he didn’t find below the ice on my creek he would find elsewhere. And the next day, he was back—the ice had melted enough to let him stand up to those bony knees near the shore again, waiting for the fish he knew would eventually swim his way. We should all be so persistent.

Monday, February 13, 2006

Solitude

Been feeling a bit, um, isolated lately.

Not that I’m antisocial—I’m certainly not. And I’m busy enough—I am. But that deeper connection—that bit where you come home and dump all over someone about the bad day you just had, or crow in the ear of whomever because of the really cool things that have happened lately…that’s the part that’s missing.

I’m not much of a joiner. I like intimate circles of friends. I don’t like a bunch of superficial acquaintances you can’t discuss the “hot topics” (sex, religion, politics) with—but by the same token, I don’t dismiss such acquaintances, because one relationship usually leads to another eventually. You can’t afford to lock yourself in a box no matter how hard it is to form deeper relationships, or no matter how many failures in that area you’ve had—I know because I’ve had a few. Yet that real intimacy seems to elude me.

This isn’t a confessional piece. I’m not going to pick apart my good and bad points. I have had some rock-solid excuses in the past couple of years for not wanting to form any more relationships, and for cutting out some of the ones I did have. But now that I’ve gotten over all those glitches, I’m finding it’s harder than ever to start up again—and I wonder why.

I volunteer at a local concert venue (www.kentstage.org). It’s a great place for local and national acts—I run the concession stand and hobnob with the staff and get to meet and greet all the performers. It’s a fun thing to do on weekends. I also volunteer at an even smaller concert venue, a hometown coffeehouse that features local performers on a monthly basis. The music community, especially the folk music community, is a small, intimate circle of people, who know each other—it’s like a family in a way. If you play anything vaguely acoustic (and I do), or if you know how to work sound or lighting, or if you just love to print out posters and mail out flyers, this is the sort of volunteer work that seems more like play—and it pretty much fills the weekends. Also, you get to meet a lot of the nationally known performers; they aren’t prima donnas, they love knowing who their fans are, and will gladly sign your CD inserts, and they were just like you, yesterday—so they’re a lot more grateful to know you. Yet, even with all this accessibility, all this familial bonhomie, you can still feel like you’re just on the edge of it all, rather than in the middle. I’m not even sure what it would take to get into the middle.

One of my friends in this crowd, an itinerant musician I’ll call Joe, greeted me Saturday night at the concert and said “I don’t have a band.”

“Were you supposed to bring one?” I asked him.

“No. I mean for St. Patrick’s Day. I need a band.”

Joe plays all over, usually solo; but sometimes he grabs the nearest musician and says let’s do a couple—no rehearsals, no formalities. He’s one of those performers who can pick up his guitar and play hundreds of songs in any key, anywhere, with any vocalist—even if they don’t know what key they sing in themselves. (This impresses me no end. I once sang with Joe on a festival stage—I began an old-time gospel number a capella—and pretty soon he was playing along. After the number he said to me “E-flat minor?” Hey—I just sang. I didn’t use a pitch-pipe. How was I to know that I sang in E-flat minor? Who’da thunk it?)
Anyway, Joe lamented that he didn’t have a band. He knows I sing. He knows I play Irish music. He knows I’m a whiz on the tinwhistle. We’ve done the St. Pat’s gig together before. But did he ask? Nope. I wasn’t insulted—I just felt a bit ignored. Isolated. Un-thought-about.
Trust me when I tell you I’ll get over it. However, it got me thinking. Not merely about the music people in my life, but also about other aspects. I used to be a member of several organizations that I no longer affiliate with; I used to belong to clubs I no longer belong to. I used to do some short-range travel to see people I no longer see. All these things are what kept me socially involved at a much higher rate than I am now.

This is both good and bad. On the one hand, it’s easier to plan my week. I don’t get burnt out as much as I used to. I don’t feel all pulled in ninety-six different directions. But on the other hand, I’m, well,isolated. And it’s just a bit chilly out here on the edges sometimes.

I also ran into another person at this same concert; a woman whom I’ve known for a long time, but haven’t seen around for years. In the course of our greeting, I asked her if she was seeing anyone—I knew she had ended a long-term relationship since last I’d seen her. She said, no, she was happily single. And that also got me thinking.

I, too, am happily single. I come home from my day’s work and everything is right where I left it the night before—housework takes no time at all. I know exactly how many days I can go before having to do laundry. I can buy the small sizes in the grocery store. A carton of juice lasts forever.
Sheets stay cleaner a lot longer. I can wear the most comfortable clothing in the world: a pair of old sweat pants and a huge, baggy top. And on summer mornings, when I’m not working, I can take my newspaper and my cup of espresso out onto my porch swing and spend a quality hour or two doing the crossword, sipping coffee in the stripes of warm sunlight pouring through the slat blinds, playing airs on my whistle, or staring at the birds at the feeder. It is impossible to feel bad, lonely, or even a little depressed on those mornings.

In my house, now that I’m not in there with someone else, convenience, tidiness and comfort have evolved to high art.

I guess there’s an upside to isolation after all. Sometimes the best songs are those you play by yourself.